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A Change in Plans



To be an adult means to accept the awesome responsibility of constantly making choices.
–Mary Pipher, from Letters to a Young Therapist

These past two months we’ve been faced with making a barrage of choices, enough that I’ve felt–man, it sucks to be an adult sometimes! For those of you who are parents, do you remember a time when it really hit you that you alone are responsible for the well-being of your family? Awesome responsibility indeed. Well, that reality has been hitting me a lot recently–to the point of terror. But of course, one must move past the terror and do something about it.

And so the time has come for me to return to work as a social worker. I start working as a therapist at a local foster care agency after Zoey’s spring break ends in April. It’s been a long six years since I’ve worked as a therapist. I’m going down a path I thought I’d left behind only to return once again.

Mary Pipher writes about her “breadcrumb trail.” I look back on my breadcrumb trail from teaching second grade in Compton, to legal assistant at Cravath, Swaine, and Moore, to case manager, to graduate student, to palliative care social work fellow, to hospice social worker, to therapist, to homemaker, herbalist, and now back to therapist. A new season is beginning yet again.






Author: Jessica Adriance Cowan

I'm a wife, mama of a daughter and son, a lover of writing, and budding herbalist.

2 thoughts on “A Change in Plans

  1. Well that is a shock. Do you need a change? Will you be working part or full time. It is very hard to be a full time mother and wife in the country. What are your barrages of choice?Love you auntie Flea. Sent from my iPad


  2. No, I most certainly did not need a change. I’ve been happy as keeper of the home, but our current situation requires that I work full-time. Yes, I am joining all the other mamas employed outside the home who are trying to balance work life outside the home with work life inside the home. I just finished writing out my self-care plan. I hope it is enough to see me through.

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